Here's my story or my rant. When I was kid or a beginner drummer all I had was sticks and a pad, Till one day my grandmother invited me up to her house as she had something for me. It was a snare drum. I was so freaking excited, I had something to use other then a block of wood with some rubber on it. The drum was a very very crappy drum, sounded like crap, looked like crap. But it was given to me and I cleaned it up gave it some loving care and made it work. it was awesome.
Now I wish to pave it forward and maybe make this a tradition and I have just the perfect person in mind. My grandmother's son (My Uncle) has son (my cousin) who has a son (what's that a cousin once removed) ---- did you follow that? haah---- anyways he started learning how play drums last year. So here I am, I have this old snare that I no longer use and as said think that it would be really cool to pass on the gesture to the boy. So I FB my cousin and ask if his son is still playing and is enjoying. He writes back yes, so I tell him how our grandmother gave me his father's snare drum so even though I can't give that snare back as I no longer have it, I do have one I'd like to give to him. My cousin is excited thanks me, tells me how excited his son will be, but never comes and gets the drum.
This past weekend I'm invited to a birthday party for his sister's 1 year old baby. I think great I'll be able to finally give this boy the snare. we put it in the car and head out. We get there, I see my cousin, I tell him I have the snare drum, he says great looks for his son, he's off playing and I just hand the snare off to him. Later on in the party, I see the boy and walk up to him and ask him if he's still playing is he having fun all that stuff. He says yes and has a big smile on his face. I say cool. Then there's a gift for you in the your dad's truck. Eyes grow big.. I say I can tell you know what it is. He says yea a drum set. I smile back and say.. no, it's not a set, but it's a snare drum. He says it's not a set of drums. I said no it's just a snare, he says, but I want a whole set. I'm like well it's a start right, He said well I don't want just one, I want a set, I said well it's more then what you have now correct and if you really don't want the snare just say so and i'll take it back home. he then turned and ran.
Before we left I told his father that I told him. He's father said great did he say thank you. I said no he was upset that I didn't give him an entire kit. Father says what does he want. I'm like a whole kit. my cousin says I know but I want him to say thank you. I just shrugged my shoulders as my ride was leaving, I had to go.
here's the thing... I know I'm old and old school. I'm not ashamed of that. I also know or at least it feels that these days a beginning drummer is on the drumset from the very start unlike when I started where you had nothing but a drum pad, and wasn't till I was in high school before I was allowed to move onto a set. I guess I'm just like... I get it, understand times change but where is the appreciation. His family lives pay check to pay check. They don't have the money to buy him a snare never minds a couple hundred dollar kit. So why can't you just say Thank you and be happy. Why do I have to feel like my gift wasn't good enough. I'm glad I gave him the drum. I still think it was the right thing to do. just I wish I never talked to the kid.. I would have just gone home thinking he was as exited I was those many years ago... but UGH!!!
sorry for the rant...